綿あめ 少女
 
PortalHomeCalendarFAQSearchRegisterLog in

Share | 
 

 Question for the ladies.

Go down 
Go to page : 1, 2  Next
AuthorMessage
sudenga
Five-cents Choco Balls


Number of posts : 25
Age : 30
Registration date : 2008-05-26

PostSubject: Question for the ladies.   Mon May 26, 2008 8:47 am

Do you like the guy to be the aggressor, or yourself? Who initiates?
Back to top Go down
View user profile
lynzajw
Rainbow Bubble Gum
avatar

Number of posts : 56
Age : 28
Location : Toronto, Canada
Registration date : 2008-05-26

PostSubject: Re: Question for the ladies.   Thu May 29, 2008 12:18 am

>>

<.<

Tee-hee, I feel very bashful about this for some reason. But anyway... back to the topic at hand.

The guy. It really annoys me when a guy doesn't do anything unless you initiate it. Of course, if a guy pushes is too aggressive, it's not good either. I like a guy who initiates it but makes sure I'm okay with it before going any further.

...Does that even make sense? Oh well, whatever. Such is my opinion.
Back to top Go down
View user profile
miki
Five-cents Choco Balls
avatar

Number of posts : 7
Age : 28
Registration date : 2008-06-10

PostSubject: Re: Question for the ladies.   Tue Jun 10, 2008 10:00 am

lynzajw wrote:
>>

<.<

Tee-hee, I feel very bashful about this for some reason. But anyway... back to the topic at hand.

The guy. It really annoys me when a guy doesn't do anything unless you initiate it. Of course, if a guy pushes is too aggressive, it's not good either. I like a guy who initiates it but makes sure I'm okay with it before going any further.

...Does that even make sense? Oh well, whatever. Such is my opinion.

I agree 100%. |D
Back to top Go down
View user profile
lilmarie
Five-cents Choco Balls


Number of posts : 23
Age : 29
Registration date : 2008-07-03

PostSubject: Re: Question for the ladies.   Thu Jul 03, 2008 6:28 pm

yeh that is so true *points above*
i like guys to takes the 1st step, since i'm kinda old fashion but at times i do take the 1st step which annoys me but guys r guys lol....but i think an even side for both girls and guys to take the 1st step is always best =D.....but i dun want the guy 2 b aggressive because it gets too much and can scare away the girl
Back to top Go down
View user profile
serenity
Rainbow Bubble Gum
avatar

Number of posts : 42
Age : 32
Registration date : 2008-05-27

PostSubject: Re: Question for the ladies.   Sat Jul 19, 2008 8:16 am

i think it will be awkward for the ladies to take the first initiative....i don't know how it is in other place but i think that wherever country you are, there's a big percentage that guys should really make the first move...maybe there's a few instances or sitution that its up to the ladies to make the first move...
Back to top Go down
View user profile
egoamote
Five-cents Choco Balls


Number of posts : 16
Age : 28
Registration date : 2008-07-21

PostSubject: Re: Question for the ladies.   Mon Jul 21, 2008 2:34 am

i prefer the guy to be the one to take the initiative since i'm shy
Back to top Go down
View user profile
kagomilee
Rainbow Bubble Gum
avatar

Number of posts : 37
Age : 24
Location : Singapore~
Registration date : 2008-07-05

PostSubject: Re: Question for the ladies.   Mon Jul 21, 2008 2:43 am

I also prefer them to take action because we are afraid
Back to top Go down
View user profile
istrii
Five-cents Choco Balls


Number of posts : 24
Age : 29
Registration date : 2008-07-19

PostSubject: Re: Question for the ladies.   Mon Jul 21, 2008 7:32 am

I prefer the guy/girl to be the one to take the initiative as I am pretty easy-going as unless I'm serious about the guy/girl, I won't date him/her. I am ready anytime and I want him/her to be ready too and not only me.
Back to top Go down
View user profile
margomeleon
Five-cents Choco Balls


Number of posts : 22
Age : 33
Registration date : 2008-04-01

PostSubject: Re: Question for the ladies.   Tue Jul 22, 2008 10:12 pm

Well, I'd have to say that I want the guy to take the initiative since I have NEVER been the person who makes a move first. Which is most likely the reason I'm single. Hahaha.
Back to top Go down
View user profile
Yasumiko
Burned Cookie
avatar

Number of posts : 6
Age : 31
Location : Europe
Registration date : 2008-03-21

PostSubject: Re: Question for the ladies.   Wed Jul 23, 2008 6:09 pm

I'm shy and a bit old fashioned sometimes so I would like the guy to take the initiative as well.
I kind of loose interest in a guy the moment I have to take the first initiative. sad
Back to top Go down
View user profile
Harumi
Five-cents Choco Balls
avatar

Number of posts : 23
Age : 24
Registration date : 2008-07-21

PostSubject: Re: Question for the ladies.   Tue Jul 29, 2008 2:58 am

xDD aahaha! I think I'd like it if the guy would be the one to take the intitiative. I would NEVER, EVER make the first move, ahaha!! that's probably why I barely know any guy friends.
Back to top Go down
View user profile
kyushu
Five-cents Choco Balls
avatar

Number of posts : 21
Age : 30
Location : France
Registration date : 2008-08-05

PostSubject: Re: Question for the ladies.   Sun Aug 10, 2008 2:52 pm

lynzajw wrote:
>>

<.<

Tee-hee, I feel very bashful about this for some reason. But anyway... back to the topic at hand.

The guy. It really annoys me when a guy doesn't do anything unless you initiate it. Of course, if a guy pushes is too aggressive, it's not good either. I like a guy who initiates it but makes sure I'm okay with it before going any further.

...Does that even make sense? Oh well, whatever. Such is my opinion.


I think the same here!
Back to top Go down
View user profile
Blise
Five-cents Choco Balls


Number of posts : 22
Age : 29
Location : Germany
Registration date : 2008-07-19

PostSubject: Re: Question for the ladies.   Wed Aug 20, 2008 3:09 am

yeah, i think the guy should be more aggressive in those things, too.
Back to top Go down
View user profile
kittybr
Five-cents Choco Balls


Number of posts : 8
Age : 32
Registration date : 2008-08-20

PostSubject: Re: Question for the ladies.   Wed Aug 20, 2008 2:22 pm

I prefer guys that give first step but usually I'm the one who gives .. I don't know .. I think that its my fate date guys who are slow.
Back to top Go down
View user profile
KimikoC
Five-cents Choco Balls


Number of posts : 23
Age : 24
Registration date : 2008-08-20

PostSubject: Re: Question for the ladies.   Wed Aug 20, 2008 8:48 pm

I would rather have the Guy be it because it seems more "right" it me for some reason ( been reading too much manga)
But if the guy is doing it too much then a good lecture and maybe a slap in the face is needed:)
Back to top Go down
View user profile
KaOz
Rainbow Bubble Gum


Number of posts : 32
Age : 30
Registration date : 2008-07-23

PostSubject: Re: Question for the ladies.   Thu Aug 21, 2008 11:48 am

I like it when the boys do the first step but if it doesn't work I have no problem to be aggresive :D
It also depends on the mood sometimes i am shy and sometimes not. But I hate it when I always have to do it. to take the first step. Sometimes I also want the boy to do it. I donÄt think it has to do with it feeling right when the guy does it. you know it is more like, when the boy is going to do the first step you know he is really interested and you don't have to fear that you get rejected.
Back to top Go down
View user profile
wookie0215
Rainbow Bubble Gum


Number of posts : 32
Age : 36
Registration date : 2008-08-21

PostSubject: Re: Question for the ladies.   Thu Aug 21, 2008 3:41 pm

Most of the time, it depends on the mood but i think its more exciting when the guy makes the move. That way you know they got you on their minds.
Back to top Go down
View user profile
joepancake
Five-cents Choco Balls


Number of posts : 24
Age : 29
Location : Canada
Registration date : 2008-08-25

PostSubject: Re: Question for the ladies.   Mon Aug 25, 2008 5:01 pm

By and large I prefer the guys to take the first step. As Wookie said, it shows that they're interested in you. It's also flattering and shows self confidence which I find attractive. I tend to go for manly-men :P

That being said, I also sympathize with the guys. There were very few girls in my high school, and at times I was the only girl in my class, so I got to know the guys really well and got to see into their world a bit (yeah, my school was kinda weird). It turns out that guys are every bit as nervous as girls are about this kind of thing. If they confess and the girl says no, they have just as much to loose. Actually, I think the chances of a girl getting rejected after confessing are probably less than a boy. It's also hard for them to know just how to do it; if they are too sweet, they come off as cheezy or sleezy. If too forceful, they come off as horny jerks. If they are too timid and shy, they look like they have no backbone.

I've confessed before. Yep that's right. We were all alone walking somewhere and I was like, "Hey, ****, I like you, wanna go out." and He was all like shock and stood there with his mouth gaping for a bit and said "Uh.. shure. yeah. YEAH! uh. wow. " and then we went out. Later it turned out he was kind of boring so I dumped him, and then much later it turned out he was engaged and had proposed to the girl about a month before I asked him out (viva fiancees stalking me on facebook!) but that's another story. I suppose that's where what wookie might come into play. But I think overall it wasn't a bad experience, and I got a huge rush asking him out which was kind of amazing.

So yeah, I guess my main point is that it's just as hard for them as it is for us. Sure, tradition expects them to make the first move, but sometimes it's also easier for us to confess first and get the ball rolling. Right now though, I'd prefer if they asked me out first though, because it is HARD, for anyone, especially when you really truly care about the person.

Woah, that was way longer than I had planned.
Back to top Go down
View user profile
mizuki246
Five-cents Choco Balls
avatar

Number of posts : 22
Age : 28
Registration date : 2008-09-18

PostSubject: Re: Question for the ladies.   Thu Sep 18, 2008 7:47 am

the guy???? maybe i've read tooo much manga lol!
Back to top Go down
View user profile
missyangel87
Five-cents Choco Balls


Number of posts : 25
Age : 31
Registration date : 2008-06-07

PostSubject: Re: Question for the ladies.   Fri Sep 19, 2008 3:09 am

i think it's good when a boy takes first step because when a girl try to take first step the opposite side can understand you wrong and he can look you up a very different place which you definitely don't want it...plus girls like to be chased.... happy but the boy shouldn't be aggressive too much otherwise he can become a nuiance... mad
Back to top Go down
View user profile
SillyApple
Five-cents Choco Balls


Number of posts : 23
Age : 30
Location : Melbourne
Registration date : 2008-08-20

PostSubject: Re: Question for the ladies.   Fri Sep 19, 2008 5:24 am

It depends with me... but i usually like them to initiate things.. but not overboard..then i think they're clingy?
However...there's no such thing as perfect timing =/
I do like a challenge though =p
Back to top Go down
View user profile
cutiepie13
Five-cents Choco Balls


Number of posts : 15
Age : 29
Registration date : 2008-04-01

PostSubject: Re: Question for the ladies.   Mon Sep 22, 2008 4:39 pm

i think i would hope both of us would be the aggresor. i mean, the relationship would be better that way too. i think that the boy being the only aggressor wouldn't make the relationship work out. happy
Back to top Go down
View user profile
silver
Burned Cookie
avatar

Number of posts : 6
Age : 31
Registration date : 2008-09-27

PostSubject: Re: Question for the ladies.   Mon Sep 29, 2008 8:57 am

Hi I am a guy and have a question for the girls. I am really shy and it takes a long time for me to open up to people. The girl I like is a close friend and one of the few people I truly feel comfortable being myself around. Recently I have made an effort to be more obvious with my flirting and she seems to be flirting back. The consensus of this topic seems to be that its up to me as the guy to make the first move but I am afraid. I truly cherish her friendship and couldn't stand it if I made it awkward between us. Like I said I am a shy person and have never had a girlfriend so I have no experience in this situation. So a question for the girls is there a way to tell her clearly that I would like to be more than friends without making her feel awkward and risking messing up our friendship?
Back to top Go down
View user profile
MEE
Five-cents Choco Balls


Number of posts : 26
Age : 28
Registration date : 2008-04-21

PostSubject: Re: Question for the ladies.   Mon Nov 03, 2008 6:40 am

to silver: i think its really hard to get the balance...but of course it always depends on the person who is in love and the loved person...

my best friend and her best friend where in such a situation, the problem she didnt love him...so...dont be too agressive and give her the feeling that you care about her, but at the same time you should get yourself ready for a disappointment, cause life is never like you want it to be...

but whatever happens, i think its better to try than to oversleep your own chances, cause when you start to have regrets in your life, its to late....! ^^ i wish you good luck

ps i know how it feels when you think back, and start to imagine what happend if...and thats really uncool and hearts a lot more than anything else...cause if it doesnt work out, you can still start to fight for your friendship <3
Back to top Go down
View user profile
hanabum
Rainbow Bubble Gum


Number of posts : 32
Age : 30
Registration date : 2008-11-03

PostSubject: Re: Question for the ladies.   Tue Nov 04, 2008 1:48 am

I would like a guy who's able to take the reins and who'll let me take it every once in a while.
Back to top Go down
View user profile
Sponsored content




PostSubject: Re: Question for the ladies.   

Back to top Go down
 
Question for the ladies.
Back to top 
Page 1 of 2Go to page : 1, 2  Next
 Similar topics
-
» Question about Reinforce Truth
» Question on scrap dragon
» Ginkgo Question
» JK Question
» The Ladies of Fortune~

Permissions in this forum:You cannot reply to topics in this forum
Wataame Shoujo :: JUNK CHIPS :: Probs, girls?-
Jump to: